Sunday, February 28, 2010
I’ve a friend who struggles with her relationship a very toxic relationship. She calls me when shit hits the fan, and we talk about him. She cries, I listen, she complains about him, and I give my advice for the thousandth time. it’s always the same it goes something like this: If someone say one thing, but do another, you are lying to yourself if you don’t listen to their actions. But if you are truthful with yourself, you will save yourself a lot of emotional pain. Telling yourself the truth about the situation may hurt, but healing is on the way, and it’s just a matter of time before things will be better for you.
If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him. Walking away may hurt for while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. I hope this time it sinks in.
Love yourself first.